I think it’s safe to say that meeting people from the internet isn’t as taboo of a thing as it once was. Whether it’s meeting via Twitter or Tinder or some silly game called Puzzle Pirates, it’s not uncommon for relationships to form online and carry over into real life.
Of course, the danger with meeting in person after forming a connection online is that the other person may not always be what you think they are. And no, I’m not talking about the dreaded catfish situation. (As far as I know, that hasn’t been a part of my life with people I’ve met in person so far and if it has been, kudos to them because I still haven’t figured it out.)
No, I’m talking about the things your brain assumes about the other person, on its own, that completely throws you off when you meet in person… like a person’s height.
Every time I see Dave I forget he’s not the size of my laptop screen.
Dave, for those of you who don’t know, is my long-distance British fiancé. We met online over five years ago, visited each other a couple of times, solidified our relationship during my time studying abroad and are now in the process of planning our wedding so we can finally have a future together in the same country.
We generally visit each other twice a year (usually alternating between locations) and every. single. time. I am shocked by his height when I see him.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t actually think he’s going to be the size of my laptop screen prior to meeting. That would be a bit ridiculous (but maybe also a little cute). But something about only ever seeing him sitting down on Skype makes my brain assume that he’s going to be the same height as me. I just don’t get those visual cues of his height.
So when we finally reunite in person and I have to actually arch my head upwards to make eye contact with him, my brain has a mini freak out. And no, it’s not like he’s a giant or something! He’s only five inches taller than me. But it’s still enough for my brain to be like “Whaaaaaaa?”
But hey, I’m thankful the height thing is the only unexpected thing that strikes me when we meet up in person. There could’ve been a lot worse things for him to hide…
Now please someone tell me I’m not the only one who has suffered this momentary shock when meeting a person in real life. Even if it is not due to height, there has to be something that has surprised you when meeting someone you know from the internet, right? Please let me know about your experiences in the comment below, I’d love to compare!